Philosophical/theological monograph: a study of love. But the single English word "love" is used for several quite different things, as Professor Lewis demonstrates with his customary Title: The Four Loves PDF (tablet), jinzihao.info New Light on C. S. Lewis's The Four Loves" | The Undiscovered C. S. Lewis: New Thoughts and Directions in Lewis Studies, ed. Bruce R. Johnson (forthcoming). A repackaged edition of the revered author's classic work that examines the four types of human love: affection, friendship, erotic love, and the love of God.
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The Four Loves. by C. S. LEWIS That our affections kill us not, nor dye. DONNE Geoffrey Bles LONDON Printed in Great Britain by. Also by John C. Maxwell.. of the evening, as Steve and I were walking to our car, he said to me, “John, I bet That THE FOUR LOVES C. S. Lewis - Watch. The Four Loves was Lewis' look at some of the different loves described in Greek thought: (agape) in the light of Christian commentary on ordinate loves.
Limit the size to characters. I am an oldster myself and might be expected to take the oldsters' side, but in fact I have been far more impressed by the bad manners of parents to children than by those of children to parents. I have said that almost anyone may be the object of Affection. A wonderful book written late in C. The path peters out almost at once. It would be a shame that so fine a thing should have been wasted on him.
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Till We Have Faces: A Myth Retold. The C. An Anthology of 8 C. Lewis Titles: Surprised by Joy: The Shape of My Early Life. Read more. Nearly every page scintillates with observations which are illuminating, provocative and original. He is writing, presumably, for the unconverted as well as for Christians, and whatever the former may believe or disbelieve about God they are persuaded that he could only exist as a culmination in absolute terms of their deepest moral convictions.
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As usual, he covers all the peripheral issues first, and seemingly in parallel, yet by the end of the book he ties all the elements together in a powerful essay. This is his reflection on love, both natural as in coming from man's nature and divine coming directly from God , and in this way the book is timeless.
There are, however, a few points dealing with friendly relationships between the sexes that may seem dated -- they are thoughtful and astute, but they are mostly reflective of a time in England when men and women rarely worked side by side. Yet, even here, Lewis is aware of the transitory nature of these conditions, and mentions that if these situations changed then the nature of the friendly interactions would also change.
His general observations remained true regardless. This essay is not as easy to read as "Mere Christianity", but with patience I would think almost anyone who persevered to the conclusion should be able to understand and gain from it. It is very highly recommended. In this classic C.
Lewis, the celebrated author of 'the Chronicles of Narnia,' reflects on love. He begins by observing that at birth we all start out with need-love, needing gift-love.
Gift-love is the kind of love the creator shows to the created, in the process of creating and taking care of the created.
It is the love a mother bestows on her newborn child. In contrast, need-love is the condition of poverty that every created being begins with at birth.
I feel this quote sums up the point Mr. Lewis was making about need-love, 'Man approaches god most nearly when he is in one sense least like God. For what can be more unlike than fullness and need, sovereignty and humility, righteousness and penitence. Lewis continues with a brief synopsis of things that we can show love for; these include others, nature, country, and finally, the transcendent creator.
Dissecting each, he illustrates that love of nature, patriotism, etc. Next, Mr. Lewis looks at the different kinds of love which include affection, philios, eros, and charity or agape. Affection includes the love of parents for their child, love of our pets, etc. Philios is the love between friends.
Eros is the love between two lovers. Finally, charity is the love of the creator towards the created and the return of that love by the created toward both the creator and creation. Of all the loves, Mr.
Lewis holds charity or agape in the highest esteem. All other loves fall short of Agape, as Mr. Lewis states in this quote, 'The other loves prove that they are unworthy to take the place of god by the fact that they cannot even remain themselves and do what they promise to do without god's help.
By placing our faith in images we are placing faith in what is transient and temporary. Yet, the love that is immanent and transcendent of creation is all encompassing, therefore imageless, and thus beyond human conceptual understanding.. To understand love in all of its aspects we need both the images of affection, philios, and eros as well as the transcendent for the images are stepping stones on our way up to this feeling of all encompassing love. Here, Mr. Lewis makes an important point about love when he states, 'To love at all is to be vulnerable.
Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. We shall draw nearer to God, not by trying to avoid the sufferings inherent in all loves, but by accepting them and offering them to him; throwing away all defensive armour.
Yet, we cannot become entranced by our love for the images of the love immanent and transcendent of creation, because they like we are merely temporary, here one day, gone the next..
Lewis concludes with this point, 'Only those into which love himself has entered will ascend to love himself. What was the precise difference between, say, friendship and mere alliances, or between affection and a simple community of interests? HarperOne, , 86— I thank Arend Smilde for originally bringing to my attention these letters.
Lewis on 15 October ibid. New Thoughts and Directions in Lewis Studies forthcoming he agrees with Waldman, he does not feel strongly about it: I would have said this is one of his fortes as a writer. In fact I have often heard admirers of his writings say that it is a mistake to read his books more than once, for that very reason. Lewis had worked hard on it first for the radio and then for the printer, adding major new chapters and reworking old ones. But another suspicion was later proven true: Demant, mentioned above, stands out by having only positive things to say.
In afterthought certain questions arise and doubts remain. Other reviewers were less charitable. The young Alasdair MacIntyre was singu- larly unimpressed: He misunder- stands so deeply.
The composition of the cast changed considerably throughout the series. Some actors left, others were replaced. By the end of season four, there was no Blake, nor were there seven of them. Something similar could be said of The Four Loves. The Four Loves—a simple and memorable title, brilliant really, but at the expense of creating a false expectation.
In his private letters, Lewis sometimes speaks as if there literal- ly were four loves: Caroline Simon has excavated four different parameters: The opening sentence of the radio talks was at once blunt and revealing: As an expert on and lover of Greek, Lewis chose its four-fold category for pedagogical purposes primari- ly.
If he had chosen, say, Finnish, the language of The Kalevala that he so admired, perhaps his book would be known as One Love or Mute Love. If recent accounts of love in the Greek language are correct, it could have been called The Six Loves, with extra chapters on pragma and mania.
They are best understood simply as basic human relationships and feelings. As relationships, they provide the context for love proper the space and occasion for it , and as feelings, they provide fuel for love proper the energy and motivation.
Affection is discussed primarily in terms of a feeling or relation between family mem- bers. But it can extend to almost any group of people or animals who, for whatever reason, live or spend time with one another.
The key is familiarity. Gaudeamus, , New Thoughts and Directions in Lewis Studies forthcoming notice of it and shrink from the visitor who is making every attempt to win its regard. Interestingly, no- where does he prove that what he calls friendship really is a love.
But how does it prove that friendship is a love?
It is not clear that it does. The examples of friendship that really do de- serve the name love do so for other reasons. Just like other human relationships and feel- ings, friendship deserves to be called love only insofar as it becomes permeated by love proper. Eros is even more obviously a feeling and a relationship than are affection and friend- ship. Rather, Lewis is taking liter- ary liberties to make a point: It is not a virtue, not an acquired stable habit or disposition to act and orient oneself toward what is good.
Just as affection, friendship, and eros provide the space and fuel for love proper but are not in themselves that love, so a garden provides the space and fuel for beauty but 48 Ibid.
Redefining love itself We can dissect a frog, if we absolutely insist, and codify its various limbs and organs. But what is a frog? As a less morbid example, we can single out pieces of furniture in our house: But what is furniture? A family of four sitting on that couch could include a mother, a father, a daughter, and a son. But what is a family? But what is love itself? One of the most peculiar facts about The Four Loves is that it never tells us. If you comb its pages for a definition of love, you will leave empty-handed.
This is rather surprising. I am not being particularly brave or original here. It was noted right after its publication. Whatever the reason for the omission, in one sense it is wise. But then, a limp hand holds nothing. Where is the right bal- ance? Notice, too, the number of loves. Yet it clearly shows that Lewis was fully aware of the question. It has been attempted before. Claren- don Press, , First, a more suffi- cient definition of love would, if such a definition were possible, also cover love for non- persons, not just persons.
We are reminded especially of all Lewis has to say in The Four Loves about sub-personal loves, about love for country, animals, nature, and so on. What languages might these be? What relevant insights do they store? We are never told. Second, he defends neediness as part of both given and elevated human nature. This is probably true. It remains unclear, however, how any of this requires calling it a love. Many good hu- man traits, urges, and desires may be essential for reciprocal community without being love per se.
The modifications to the manuscript protect against at- tributing to love a false self-sufficiency—something Lewis himself came close to doing in his radio talks. The Social and Ethical Thought of C. Lewis Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans,  , 60— For a concatenation of these formulations, see pages 59— Walter Hooper London: Collins, , 97—, here Lewis, The Problem of Pain , ch. III, para. New Thoughts and Directions in Lewis Studies forthcoming what overeagerly by turning need into need-love.
The very words entail receptivity. Here is how it goes. This is simply love. This is its genus. It includes an appreciative, receptive, and proactive dimension. Love as a virtue can form love relation- ships. This is the quintessence of love. This is the dye that col- ours the general fabric of our earthly life, and perhaps even the life to come.
But sacrifice is not the point of love; rather love is the point of sacrifice. The latter is closer to power than to love. Essay Collection and Other Short Pieces, ed. Lesley Walmsley London: HarperCollins, , 96— , here New Thoughts and Directions in Lewis Studies forthcoming Alternatively, we could extend the definition by adding insofar as possible and permissi- ble to qualify the level or kind of commitment in question. After all, unqualified commitment is probably impossible, since our resources are finite and our attention spasmodic.
Even if it were possible, it would be impermissible. In some human relations it can be downright destructive and even illegal. In the end, though compressing or expanding the definition would both be justified for opposite reasons , I prefer it as it stands. It strikes an effective balance, I think, between being neither too rigid nor too flexible. The grip is neither crushing nor limp. All words here, love must be unpacked, but a line must be drawn somewhere.
I will involve my- self in your well-being, and welcome your love in return. Love is always appreciative, proactive, and receptive. How do we succeed in love? This is where charity, rightly understood, steps in. Observations from C. Close readers of might recall that he uses the word agape here, not love.
I have left it out so as to discourage us from prematurely reading into it any preconceptions.